Once you reach the point of not wanting to talk, argue, flatter, or please anyone, then you have completely understood human nature and seen through life. Ding Yuanying mentioned this in "Tiandao." When the noodle shop owner charged him extra twice, he just smiled and paid without saying a word. The noodle shop owner asked him if he had a job, but he buried his head in his noodles and ignored him, as if he hadn’t heard anything. When his family scolded and blamed him, he didn’t retort, just listened and watched without a sound. In the park, when someone took his spot while watching a dance, he couldn’t even be bothered to look at the person who snatched the seat and turned to leave. Others commented that this person exuded a sense of not bothering to engage with you, to the extent that he was too lazy to explain any reasoning. Ding Yuanying's ex-wife was particularly direct; she wanted to argue with him, but it was impossible as he simply didn’t take the bait. Why is he so go-with-the-flow? Because he understands very well, and he had long calculated the costs: arguing to prove a point, debating right or wrong, spending breath, time, and emotional energy—what’s the point of winning an argument? What if you lose? Winning damages relationships, losing leaves you unhappy. With that time, why not do something better? The cost of an argument is much greater than the trivial matters at hand. Once you understand this, not arguing or fighting in situations becomes a habit, and you don’t need to think too much about it. As the saying goes, wise people speak less, and those who talk more may not truly understand. This saying is particularly true; truly wise people won’t stubbornly prove they are right, nor will they fawn over anyone. If you’ve also come to the point of being too lazy to explain to others, too lazy to argue, and too lazy to please anyone, and just want to be quietly by yourself, then don’t worry. It’s not that you’ve become indifferent, but that you’ve gained clarity. You’ve seen through all the squabbles and social niceties, realizing they carry little meaning and are merely a waste of time and life, draining your own spirit. When you start to understand to spend your precious time and energy on truly important people and matters, you have grown.